Somehow, you (once again) managed to put perfect words to the complex mix of my own views. Until recently, I’ve felt like I hold this self- contradictory mix of positions, but when I read your writing I realize the contradictions only arise because of the incredibly warped public narrative.
That twisted cultural narrative creates false dichotomies and forced equivalences, all designed to rip apart the reality they seek to replace.
If you love men, ordinary, strong, gallant men, you can’t possibly be a “safe” ally for the fundamental rights of women. If you find value in strictly female spaces, you’re no longer a feminist, you’re the worst kind of hateful scum that actively causes the destruction of trans people. And holding both of those terrible values at once is illogical and “harmful.”
But reading your writing, outside of my own head but in complete agreement, it’s clear that only in a warped, upside down world is it hyperbolically dangerous to both recognize and celebrate innate sexual dimorphism.
The vulgar caricatures that have come to define both men and women are created to disturb the incredibly natural balance of men and women.
The blindingly obvious intent to mangle early human development is the capstone.
I’m a completely a-religious person. Absolutely agnostic. But somewhere, this all feels so fundamentally destructive, so biblical.
Despite their words of “inclusion” and “harm reduction”, the only clear goal I can see is utter cultural devastation. To what end, I have no idea. But reading your Substack brings a glimmer of hope.
The tiny(but growing) voices of balance and sanity seem to be poking up, like green shoots after a raging forest fire. Healthy life might still exist under the ashes.
As a daddy's girl, of a big, crew cut, quiet man who mowed the lawn every week and fell asleep in his armchair on occasion, I could never buy the men are pigs narrative. Humans are incredibly complex and cannot be simply forced into boxes. As you point out, the warping of male and female relationships has brought us to our current situation, with transgenderism now all the rage, and the normalization of pedophiles to "minor attracted persons." Please don't ever stop talking sense!
"...how it has only been in the last 30 years that father’s have only been expected to be good. Before that they were expected to be absent, silent, unreliable, and selfish."
"Deeply incorrect" indeed. When I was a child in the late '50s and '60s, my dad was quite good--responsible, reliable, kind, nurturing, always approachable, and funny. There have always been exceptions, but most of the other kids' dads I knew were the same way. The dads in the Andy Hardy movies, "Father Knows Best", and "Leave It to Beaver" actually are pretty true-to-life.
What is needed between opposite genders is what is needed between all people, mutual respect. Scripture says, "God created humanity in his own image, in the image of God, he created them, male and female, he created them...God saw all that he had made, and it was very good." (Genesis 1: 27,31)
The term "feminist" can be defined in a lot of different ways. If you are talking about the extreme goofy hyper feminism too often found on college campuses, it can and does often go right along with Marxist ideology. But, to many people, "feminist" simply means respecting women as fully human in accord with such verses as Galatians 3:28. By that standard, it can be argued that Jesus Christ was a feminist in the way that he treated women (truly remarkable for the time that he was living in).
I doubt that the women of today know, nor do they care, that feminism is rooted in Marxism, as are all the other "movements" against "oppressors," meaning men. Betty Friedan was an avowed Marxist. Feminism appeared, as did the Chicano Movement, the American Indian Movement (founded by convicts) and the rest when they saw the success blacks achieved with the civil rights movement of the 1950s-60s. If they could do it, why not they?
Have women ever been oppressed? I think not. My great-grandmother died of an infection after childbirth in the late 1800s. That was often the lot of young women, which is why men often married multiple times. Their wives would die. But then along came sanitation followed by antibiotics. Unlike most people today, I grew up in a farm. When my parents met, he was measuring cotton for the government and she was driving a tractor. She was one of three girls. They all drove the tractor as high school girls. My sisters did not drive a tractor because my parents had three boys. But we all worked in the fields. I don't remember Mother driving the tractor much but we all went to the cotton patch to load the hoppers on the planter with fertilizer and seed. When the little plants emerged, we thinned cotton and corn with a hoe, we went through them again to cut weeds and grass until the plants were tall enough to shade the weeds and grass while Daddy laid the cotton and corn by with cultivators. Then later in late summer and early fall, we went to the field and picked cotton. We would have picked corn as my family did before Daddy bought a corn picker. Then we just had to put it in the barn, as we did the hay we cut and baled. My mother was generally in charge of the large garden where she raised various vegetables to eat and can for the winter. She had a large pea patch where she raised "field peas" to shell and can. Until they started taking them to a slaughterhouse to kill and package the meat, we killed hogs and a calf or two. Mother and her sisters would cut up the meat and package it - the men helped - boil the fat to make lard. That, my friends, is how people lived before the Industrial Revolution when men started working in factories.
Are modern women oppressed? No, they are not, they're privileged. We're all privileged. But too many have been suckered in by hucksters who are only interested in power and tell lies to get people to support them.
Perhaps then we were at the optimal population. Common sense prevailed. No "Gender Studies" or "Derangement Syndrome", just respect that Aretha reminds us of.
Somehow, you (once again) managed to put perfect words to the complex mix of my own views. Until recently, I’ve felt like I hold this self- contradictory mix of positions, but when I read your writing I realize the contradictions only arise because of the incredibly warped public narrative.
That twisted cultural narrative creates false dichotomies and forced equivalences, all designed to rip apart the reality they seek to replace.
If you love men, ordinary, strong, gallant men, you can’t possibly be a “safe” ally for the fundamental rights of women. If you find value in strictly female spaces, you’re no longer a feminist, you’re the worst kind of hateful scum that actively causes the destruction of trans people. And holding both of those terrible values at once is illogical and “harmful.”
But reading your writing, outside of my own head but in complete agreement, it’s clear that only in a warped, upside down world is it hyperbolically dangerous to both recognize and celebrate innate sexual dimorphism.
The vulgar caricatures that have come to define both men and women are created to disturb the incredibly natural balance of men and women.
The blindingly obvious intent to mangle early human development is the capstone.
I’m a completely a-religious person. Absolutely agnostic. But somewhere, this all feels so fundamentally destructive, so biblical.
Despite their words of “inclusion” and “harm reduction”, the only clear goal I can see is utter cultural devastation. To what end, I have no idea. But reading your Substack brings a glimmer of hope.
The tiny(but growing) voices of balance and sanity seem to be poking up, like green shoots after a raging forest fire. Healthy life might still exist under the ashes.
Thank you for being one of those brave voices.
As a daddy's girl, of a big, crew cut, quiet man who mowed the lawn every week and fell asleep in his armchair on occasion, I could never buy the men are pigs narrative. Humans are incredibly complex and cannot be simply forced into boxes. As you point out, the warping of male and female relationships has brought us to our current situation, with transgenderism now all the rage, and the normalization of pedophiles to "minor attracted persons." Please don't ever stop talking sense!
"...how it has only been in the last 30 years that father’s have only been expected to be good. Before that they were expected to be absent, silent, unreliable, and selfish."
"Deeply incorrect" indeed. When I was a child in the late '50s and '60s, my dad was quite good--responsible, reliable, kind, nurturing, always approachable, and funny. There have always been exceptions, but most of the other kids' dads I knew were the same way. The dads in the Andy Hardy movies, "Father Knows Best", and "Leave It to Beaver" actually are pretty true-to-life.
What is needed between opposite genders is what is needed between all people, mutual respect. Scripture says, "God created humanity in his own image, in the image of God, he created them, male and female, he created them...God saw all that he had made, and it was very good." (Genesis 1: 27,31)
There was mutual respect between the sexes until feminists came along and mounted a campaign to divide. That's what Marxists do.
The term "feminist" can be defined in a lot of different ways. If you are talking about the extreme goofy hyper feminism too often found on college campuses, it can and does often go right along with Marxist ideology. But, to many people, "feminist" simply means respecting women as fully human in accord with such verses as Galatians 3:28. By that standard, it can be argued that Jesus Christ was a feminist in the way that he treated women (truly remarkable for the time that he was living in).
I doubt that the women of today know, nor do they care, that feminism is rooted in Marxism, as are all the other "movements" against "oppressors," meaning men. Betty Friedan was an avowed Marxist. Feminism appeared, as did the Chicano Movement, the American Indian Movement (founded by convicts) and the rest when they saw the success blacks achieved with the civil rights movement of the 1950s-60s. If they could do it, why not they?
Have women ever been oppressed? I think not. My great-grandmother died of an infection after childbirth in the late 1800s. That was often the lot of young women, which is why men often married multiple times. Their wives would die. But then along came sanitation followed by antibiotics. Unlike most people today, I grew up in a farm. When my parents met, he was measuring cotton for the government and she was driving a tractor. She was one of three girls. They all drove the tractor as high school girls. My sisters did not drive a tractor because my parents had three boys. But we all worked in the fields. I don't remember Mother driving the tractor much but we all went to the cotton patch to load the hoppers on the planter with fertilizer and seed. When the little plants emerged, we thinned cotton and corn with a hoe, we went through them again to cut weeds and grass until the plants were tall enough to shade the weeds and grass while Daddy laid the cotton and corn by with cultivators. Then later in late summer and early fall, we went to the field and picked cotton. We would have picked corn as my family did before Daddy bought a corn picker. Then we just had to put it in the barn, as we did the hay we cut and baled. My mother was generally in charge of the large garden where she raised various vegetables to eat and can for the winter. She had a large pea patch where she raised "field peas" to shell and can. Until they started taking them to a slaughterhouse to kill and package the meat, we killed hogs and a calf or two. Mother and her sisters would cut up the meat and package it - the men helped - boil the fat to make lard. That, my friends, is how people lived before the Industrial Revolution when men started working in factories.
Are modern women oppressed? No, they are not, they're privileged. We're all privileged. But too many have been suckered in by hucksters who are only interested in power and tell lies to get people to support them.
Perhaps then we were at the optimal population. Common sense prevailed. No "Gender Studies" or "Derangement Syndrome", just respect that Aretha reminds us of.