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Oct 29, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

This reminds me of the Facebook knitting groups that my wife used to follow. You'd think few things could be more innocuous and apolitical than a hobby that produces sweaters and baby booties, but these groups developed into cults of foaming-at-the-mouth woke fanatics, constantly poised to pounce on and cancel anyone who even inadvertently uttered a disapproved-of word or idea. My wife, of course, being an intelligent, rational woman, bailed out when it crossed the line into full-on crazy-eyed leftist derangement.

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Nov 1, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

The internet has turned the entire world into middle school. Tribal affiliation and signaling has become as critical to (perceived) survival as in middle school because (perceived) threats of isolation, public shaming are greater than ever. In middle school and in adult life today you can lose your social support/livelihood because of one wrong (or wrongly interpretable) move. And since today this public sentencing lives on in a persistent historical record, the stakes are as high as they were back in middle school when survival (as we knew it) depended on tribal acceptance.

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Once upon a time, not that long ago, there was a stereotype of a corporate bigshot on a country club golf course utterly clueless about the travails of the working class. Today, that corporate bigshot is a big Democrat donor and a big donor to woke causes who not only is clueless about the problems of the working class but who is actively hostile to the working class who he blames for not being sufficiently deferential to his elite class status (those nasty MAGA people in the red hats you know).

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Nov 4, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

I have seen this personally more than I would care to admit. When the world suddenly became openly political I narrowed my focus to groups with specific value. As a homeschooler I need to find out about interesting opportunities, so I have to just plug my nose sometimes and enter these groups on Facebook. It is sad that so many liberal moms have decided to go this route, but in a way they sorted for the rest of us. Everyone who didn’t follow their lead now knows we have shared values. We were the ones who avoided controversial topics, who had friends on all sides but didn’t really talk politics in public. Some of us were castigated in public (FB) for not saying what everyone else was. Remember silence is violence? I eventually took steps to narrow my focus even more, for my own well being. I avoided being drawn into arguments but just seeing them happen made my stomach turn the way it does when you see a video online of bullies assaulting one person unprovoked. Now I have rebuilt my community with all the other people like me who see what is happening, I’m much happier and my friendships are deeper. It was painful at the time but worth it.

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Nov 4, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

Why did she post the job opportunity in that group if she was looking for someone with a sense of humor😉?

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There are multiple sides to any woman's personality. But there are also two flagship sides. Those two are a.) nurturing and caretaking, and b.) social control. Political correctness has taken a toll on having any meaningful discussion on what it means to be a woman. But I'll tell you -- if you want to see (b.) and how it maps around the world, read about the Afghan grandmas in Anand Gopal's amazing book on the Afghan War, 'No Good Men Among the Living'. The Taliban's enforcers of burqas, and persecution of women? That's right. It's the whole elderly women caste.

No surprises here. Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

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Nov 4, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

Was in a lawyer-mother group with thousands of members and eventually had to remove myself due to the nastiness of those who were most vocal. Not only was it painful to observe the women go after another member for, as an example, saying “Happy Holidays” (insulting because the recipient may not celebrate whatever holiday and well-intentioned is no excuse), but mind-blowing to me as a lawyer that these narrow-minded intolerant women were actually trained in law.

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Oct 30, 2022·edited Oct 31, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

Brilliant article, Jenny, one of my favourites. I've also witnessed this kind of behaviour on Fb. A couple of years ago, I was a member of some online female/spiritual group. It was all about celebrating the feminine, self empowerment, support, sisterhood, etc.. Then one day (and, yes, this was probably around or after the whole Trump/Brexit shocks, or possibly around the time of the BLM protests) one of the members ventured the question: 'Has political correctness gone too far?' And it generated a lot of response! At first, it was quite civil. People were discussing the question honestly. But, as the conversation went on, a few members went on the attack, and it completely spiralled out of control, until it was out and out war! Mostly, a lot of accusations of racism, bigotry etc...were levelled towards those who felt that political correctness/wokeism had gone too far. It got really nasty. In the end, the poor moderator had to shut the whole group down! Unbelievable!

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And there's a newer iteration of the batshit-crazy woke-girl meme than the photo above Last week a conserv comedian visited some U.S. college, and an unhinged 20something screamed and spit on him. It was surreal. Mememakers now put three women in a row: 1, Newest woke spitter; 2, Crazy-eyes (photo, above); and 3, Fake-Indigenous Elizabeth Warren. The three women bear some resemblance, so it's pretty funny.

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Nov 4, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

Ah, The Heathers...

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Exactly the kind of reasons why I left both, Facebook and Massachusetts.

And it’s only going to get worse with that fascist Maura Healey being crowned next dictator of the Commonwealth.

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Nothing screams has been like still being in a judgmental mommy group on Facebook. Facebook mommy groups like this are not a thing anymore for anyone under 50 outside of deep blue places, excepting maybe happy go lucky drinking clubs masqueradeing as book clubs scheduling their next in person wine tasting........ but even those have moved mostly to texting groups.

These women are destined to be those angry grumpy old women no one wants anything to do with (including their own children). The ones when normal women pass them on the street they look at whomever they are with and say “don’t ever let me turn into THAT when I get old.”

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Nov 4, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

I followed a link from Bari Weiss blog today. You should apply! You are a great writer with a refreshing perspective.

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The girl in the first picture was most likely a Democrat. But OK 👍.

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Nuttier than fruitcakes.

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Nov 5, 2022Liked by Jenny Holland

“....it illustrates just how much the cultural left has become the conformist hegemony brutally policing any deviation from its religious beliefs.” Brilliant. Thanks for writing this piece.

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