In search of a female Jordan Peterson

Girls and young women need an older, wiser female to remind them of some common sense truths.

“Women, we need to do something about these young bourgeois girls before they burn the whole world to the ground. What’s the solution?”

The Tweet above was posted by Róisín Micheaux in reference to just one small example of the toxic ideological fervour so many young women have these days. It struck me for its eloquent simplicity and, most of all, because it is calling for something that you hardly ever hear mentioned for a particular class of girls and women: accountability.

A few weeks ago, I published an essay on how pornography exploits and abuses not just the females who participate in its making, but also, specifically, young boys who are being exposed to it in ever greater numbers, at ever younger ages.

Most of the comments were supportive of the piece and the young men it discussed. But predictably — so predictably, in fact, that I said it would happen in the essay — there were women in the comments who were genuinely angry at any defence being made of the male half of the species. Even if you are talking about boys. Even if you are talking to boys who are telling you that being exposed to porn destroyed their minds and prevented them from being able to even speak to women.

“I have no sympathy for males because males are the problem,” wrote one commenter.

This mindset is indicative of a huge lack of accountability among women on the liberal-left.

There is incredible vulnerability inherent in being female. A brief scan of recent headlines could convince even the deepest misogynist of that. Furthermore, I am female myself — in case you hadn’t noticed. And like ever other woman alive, I have lived through some intensely vulnerable times when I have been preyed upon by men, ogled and commented on by men, and abandoned by men. Every cell in my body is female and every thought that passes through my mind is shaped by my female experiences, good and bad.

So with all of my decades of living as a female on this earth, I say with some confidence, that older women like myself have failed to provide sane emotional pathways for younger women and girls to follow. Culture has failed women — yet culture is shaped in profound ways by women. The only way to claw our way back to sanity and healthy relationships is for women, especially women my age and older, to take responsibility for what we have got wrong and find a way to wisdom.

In short, we need a female Jordan Peterson. Someone of a certain age who comes along and offers a few forgotten universal truths in a simple and direct manner, and offers the simplest and most direct solutions.

Even Peterson’s detractors recognise that he resonated hugely with young men. He pointed out what they were doing wrong. Told them to make their beds. To stop blaming others for their own failures, which are legion.

But while the Peterson phenomenon was happening in the culture, women (important caveat: elite, progressive, university-educated, women) were being given a free pass from accountability. There was nobody calling for women to clean up their own side of the street. Female self-indulgence, female cruelty, female hypocrisy, all went unremarked upon. The mainstream media, heavily populated by women searching for clout and a leg up in their elite industry, ran with a narrative: when it came to dealings with men, women were utterly blameless, utterly pure.

Are there women and girls who are totally blameless and victimised? Of course there are. See my essay from last week, for example.

But putting aside the girls who are trafficked, abused and forced into sexual slavery, we also need to acknowledge that our cultural moment elevates another type of girl. The type who proudly shows off her promiscuity and seeks fame and fortune from it. This is ho culture. And it’s bad for women, and for men. Alongside the horrifying headlines about murdered girls in Southport or raped girls in Oxford, we see headlines of pretty blondes announcing their plans to do unspeakable things to themselves and broadcast it to the world. Even A-list female singers and film stars do ever more explicit and degrading things and call it their craft. This is ho culture. And while there definitely is pushback and criticism from a variety of voices on the right, it has been quite dominant.

Are we in agreement that ho culture is bad?

I submit that it is bad because it treats a precious finite resource — female beauty — as a commodity to be exploited, quantified, and traded for attention and social clout. It also misrepresents women generally, enticing men and boys to see the women in ho culture as a paradigm of femininity, when they are actually a horrible bastardisation of it.

Prostitutes and ‘loose women’ have always existed. But ho culture is uniquely contemporary. I and all my female peers were far from chaste, and I don’t know if you know what the Boomers got up to, LOL, but the internet has really dialled things up to eleven. By allowing every child the opportunity to be the star of their own little movie, untold numbers of girls were raised with an almost maniacal focus on themselves and their looks. Not every girl who watches make up tutorials on YouTube grows up to participate in ho culture, of course. But they do grow up accustomed to that glow of the ring light, that pout for the phone camera, and that demand that they perform — something, anything — for an audience of strangers on the internet. From there, it’s just a hop, skip, and a jump to ho culture.

The women of ho culture tell us that female sex is always available, just a fun thing that you can throw around the place and not suffer any consequences. The women of ho culture do not seem to understand, or care, that we were not designed to bang the maximum number of men.

Lily Phillips on her latest stunt. Do not look up what it was.

Surely this is contributing to the ever-diminishing happiness and mental health of young people?

Yet women are actively, enthusiastically, consensually, driving ho culture. None of what these women do should be blamed on men. Just like Peterson told young men that if they are always getting rejected by girls, it’s most likely their own fault, a forthright older woman needs to bring to market a hard truth:

The best way to stop ho culture, is to stop being a ho.

I’m sorry. It cannot be done through apologetic think pieces blaming the patriarchy. I’m not even sure it could be done by banning porn or OnlyFans — as much as I’m in favour of that— any more than alcoholism was defeated in Prohibition. It cannot be done with a sort of new age, find your bliss, love is love paradigm. And it definitely cannot be done by intellectually dishonest attempts at having your cake and eating it too. This is a speciality of a small subset of women, I call them the ho intelligentsia. These are women who engage in ho behaviour but they recast it in a veneer of reason and science. Male podcasters love this, by the way. And it irritates the shit out of me.

A perfect example of this is this interview between a former OnlyFans and porn star Candice Horbacz — hilarious name by the way — on Triggernometry. She identifies as right-leaning, and seems to be trying to carve out a third way between radical acceptance and total prohibition. I don’t begrudge her that. But in the interview, she laments how difficult it is for women to go back to a normal life after getting famous for having sex for public consumption. She says: “We are saying that because they were sexual, they can no longer participate in civilised discussions, businesses and industries.”

This is profoundly dumb. The problem is not that these women are being sexual. It is that they are being sexual in public. You are taking something that is private, even sacred, and putting it up for all to see. This is bad for the minds of others. Especially — especially — very young people, given how easy it is for them to see it.

I would say to this young woman, it is not about you. There are things that matter more than your pleasure and fulfilment. And public decency is one of them. Bang all the guys you want, if you must — but for god’s sake woman, keep it private.

Peterson gained fame for telling boys to clean their rooms. We need a female Peterson to tell girls, that just because it feels good to flaunt yourself in front of an audience of strangers, does not mean you should do it.